Being Super woman

I know that all of us go through it, being a woman is not easy. We have to take care of our children (if you have any), cook, clean, work, stay in shape, attractive, have a healthy sex drive and have the common sense. It is one of the most challenging things of my life. Here is a list of situations that we take the blame:

• if your husband does not call his mom or does not spend time with his family
• if your child does something foolish in public whether you are present or not the blame goes to you.
• if your husband goes to work not groomed
• if your home is a mess

Why is that? Why aren't men accountable? We as women have so much pressure put on us to be great at everything, but men do not have those issues. Typically, men think that going to work and bringing home a check is enough even though they my have a wife who does the same thing. It is unfortunate in the society that we live in there are still social pressures to live up to being a superb wife and (one day far way for me!) mom. I think that is the cause (going back to yesterday's entry) for women filling unfulfilled and unhappy in their relationships.

It is already hard enough to maintain who you are when you merge you live with another, but the pressure and change really occur when as women are nurturing side kicks in. We have a tendency to make sure others are taken care of before our needs. I do think that in the beginning of marriage that is the side of it in my opinion that really makes a women fill indifferent. The question is how do I maintain "self" with "married" self? Please take this topic and share with friends. xoxo

What the heck...

Today I was talking to my friend about relationships. She reminded that in the beginning of marriage how men change. They get lazy, dependent and comfortable. She was telling me that her husband does not do the same things that he use to such as cooking for her, doing chores, and holding the same interest. I really do not know why things like this happen, but I will take a guess...the thrill is gone! A married man does not have to pursue his wife anymore. He gets his meals, access to sex, and does not have to pretend to be something that he is not-so he thinks. I think that a man like that needs to get a reality check. His wife is still a beautiful woman, inside and out. Whatever is old to him will be new to someone else. He should not want a situation to occur such as flirting, she loses interest also, or even seeking something outside their marriage to fulfill her. " A man is suppose to treat his wife like a queen. It also seems as if he has forgotten who asked who. The best thing in a situation like this:

• is to verbally tell him how you feel
• let him know that you are not happy
• try counseling
• continue to pursue your dreams (career, personal, hobbies)
• reflect on what brought you all together in the first place

Marriage in the beginning is difficult. Both parties are going through their changes adjusting to married life, but both people need to connect on the same level as far as expectations, goals, dreams, and family. Communication is key.

With in my own marriage I continue to treat my husband the same regardless of the changes that we are going through; we respect the roles that we now play in each other's lives. I do not believe that you should with hold necessities such as meals and chores just because things are not right with you today. That can further effect the moral in the relationship and cause other issues. The bottom line is that you can not start doing something for your mate and stop. Those are the basis of your relationship. If when you had gotten married you cooked for him or her, continue. If you all indulged in each other's interest and hobbies continue. There is nothing worse that waking up to a stranger....then you are questioning yourself, "who the heck did I marry?!"

Magazine Publications

Why isn’t there a magazine such as Cosmo that is based around the nuptial elite? I hate having to read a story about how to please my boyfriend or how to snag a guy when those things I have conquered. What I need to know is how to keep him satisfied and new ways to sneak nutrition in his meals! I want to read something that applies to me as a woman who is know different than the savvy single. Publications marketed to the 18- 35 age bracket should consider the feelings of woman like me. Yes, I am still in my twenties, marriage does not take away the true essence of who I am, and I want to be addressed as so. It is already inconvenient enough that people assume that I am a prude because of my lifestyle choice. I want to be acknowledged still as a savvy, smart, independent woman- that has a man!

The Nuptial Elite Fashionista

To start off, my blog is for those of you that are privy to the understanding of marriage. I have meet lots of people that think that being in a long term relationship qualifies them to have the full “marriage experience”. Not true!!! You are not married until you are married. The purpose of this blog is to be honest about me and shared experiences. Something’s are guaranteed to make you live, cry and feel indifferent…that is the purpose. I want you to have an objective look at yourself and know that you are not alone.

I passionate person about fashion. This blog will feature my favorite designers, artist and trends. If you are into fashion this will be a go to. I hope the outcome of this blog makes all the "nuptial elite fashionistas" out there feel that they have a source custom for them.