What the heck...

Today I was talking to my friend about relationships. She reminded that in the beginning of marriage how men change. They get lazy, dependent and comfortable. She was telling me that her husband does not do the same things that he use to such as cooking for her, doing chores, and holding the same interest. I really do not know why things like this happen, but I will take a guess...the thrill is gone! A married man does not have to pursue his wife anymore. He gets his meals, access to sex, and does not have to pretend to be something that he is not-so he thinks. I think that a man like that needs to get a reality check. His wife is still a beautiful woman, inside and out. Whatever is old to him will be new to someone else. He should not want a situation to occur such as flirting, she loses interest also, or even seeking something outside their marriage to fulfill her. " A man is suppose to treat his wife like a queen. It also seems as if he has forgotten who asked who. The best thing in a situation like this:

• is to verbally tell him how you feel
• let him know that you are not happy
• try counseling
• continue to pursue your dreams (career, personal, hobbies)
• reflect on what brought you all together in the first place

Marriage in the beginning is difficult. Both parties are going through their changes adjusting to married life, but both people need to connect on the same level as far as expectations, goals, dreams, and family. Communication is key.

With in my own marriage I continue to treat my husband the same regardless of the changes that we are going through; we respect the roles that we now play in each other's lives. I do not believe that you should with hold necessities such as meals and chores just because things are not right with you today. That can further effect the moral in the relationship and cause other issues. The bottom line is that you can not start doing something for your mate and stop. Those are the basis of your relationship. If when you had gotten married you cooked for him or her, continue. If you all indulged in each other's interest and hobbies continue. There is nothing worse that waking up to a stranger....then you are questioning yourself, "who the heck did I marry?!"